Joyce Rupp is a precious treasure in the world of spirituality, and I’d say that even if she weren’t my friend. If, like me, you’re overwhelmed by the thought of holiday shopping, her books are perennial favorites, read and re-read—and you’re in luck for the gift list. The newest: Vessels of Love is available from Orbis Press: 800-258-5838, orbisbooks.com.
It’s for those who wonder about aging: if they’ll become invisible or marginalized, “put on the shelf” with a condescending pat on the head. It’s especially appropriate for those who want to acknowledge the negatives that may come–illness, memory loss, loneliness—but also see the equally wonderful gifts of this time. For those in the thick of aging, she models how to light-heartedly laugh at our foibles and forgetfulness.
Rupp is well-qualified to guide people through this life chapter, as she has through many others in previous books. For over forty years, she’s directed people on the spiritual path, so she understands the wide diversity in how they approach the divine. She values the many traditions who benefit from her work, and wants to be not a parental voice, but one who, at 80, honestly shares her own life experiences.
The book is divided into prayers–preceded by captivating quotes, followed by discussion prompts–and poems, all taste-tested by her panel of experts in an Eldering workshop. Her topics are often those people don’t want to talk about—“Having a Medical Procedure,” “Releasing Regrets,” “Moving into a Senior Residence,” “When Adult Children Take Over,” “After a Tumble in the Shower,” for instance. The concise, witty writing, never flowery nor sentimental invites discussion and encouragement—as one chaplain used it in assisted living.
The book’s title is symbolic of healthy aging: vessels may pour forth, and they are also being filled. To see an aging person as a “vat of matured wine” brings zest, spirit and sparkle to the process. Who wouldn’t want to become a “crucible of kindness,” poured out for others? With Rupp setting our direction, we can celebrate the festival of lights within, an abundance of memories, blessings and gifts.
To see and hear Joyce Rupp in person, interviewed by publisher Robert Ellsberg about this book: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0Np4dxcpaY&list=PL_I9zTQkaIOvdWF_dm6kbINWCZ-fkjpXt&index=2
Kathy Coffey 
Thank you for this recommendation – I just ordered two books, one for myself and one for dear friend! I feel in love with Joyce Rupp’s writings after I read Fly While You Still Have Wings. Again, thank you!
Wow, this book sounds like a winner. I think I’m going to buy and use it now that I’m 101. 😊😊😊
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this superb review, Kathy. Happy almost Thanksgiving, 💖 Joyce
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